Your Thoughts??? Sex b4 Marriage

We are all aware of the the advocates of the moral/religious values of NO Sex before Marriage.
So me and my friend were talking about this.
If what is right is No Sex before marriage, then what happens in the case of a woman who recently got divorced and is seeing Mr Doe.
Does she have to wait until she gets married to Mr Doe before she can start having sex again?
Take note, she married before getting a divorce..

Please advice. . Your opinions will be very much appreciated.

As a human being,sex before marriage is almost an impossibility.
As a christian,it's a big NO.
From my experience,if a boy has u at heart,with or without sex,he will be there for u.Just like a guy will leave u if he wants to,whether u too have sex or not.
My answer is "NO".Better safe than sorry.Coupled with STDs and AIDS out there

Sex before marriage is now a "norm", not a "no".

@ Baersworth, good one hehehehe!!

I dunno, but i'd prefer to c my prospective wife naked b4 i make a lifetime commitment. Imagine it turns out she is a he??

We are all aware of the the advocates of the moral/religious values of NO Sex before Marriage.
So me and my friend were talking about this.
If what is right is No Sex before marriage, then what happens in the case of a woman who recently got divorced and is seeing Mr Doe.
Does she have to wait until she gets married to Mr Doe before she can start having sex again?
Take note, she married before getting a divorce..

Please advice. . Your opinions will be very much appreciated.

I don't believe in sex after marriage.  Women who do believe in that are either very religious or women whose lives are run by men.  Good sex is important to make the relationship work.  Besides, you gotta explore your own sexuality before marriage...

In fact, you ought to have plenty of sex before marriage 'coz we all know that after the honeymoon night you may never have sex again.

...if a boy has u at heart,with or without sex,he will be there for u.Just like a guy will leave u if he wants to,whether u too have sex or not.

Well said.

I don't believe in sex after marriage.  Women who do believe in that are either very religious or women whose lives are run by men.  Good sex is important to make the relationship work.  Besides, you gotta explore your own sexuality before marriage...

My God!  I guess that makes sense the Bible says not to deny your husbands...desires and that anything goes in the bedroom between husband and wife....I take it you're not Christian....

In fact, you ought to have plenty of sex before marriage 'coz we all know that after the honeymoon night you may never have sex again.

I never heard this from a woman before....LOL!


Anyway, a divorced woman should hopefully have gained some life experience and know more about how to apporach a relationship.  She should be more in touch with what she wants....if she doesn't plan to get married again then maybe she will seek to satisfy her carnal needs.

LOL.. From the responses, looks like everyone is FOR Sex BEFORE Marriage,  ..wrong place to ask such question... ..
I wanted to see the responses from the other side of view.. So for the religious and moralist and spiritual folks amongst us?

Cyndy, I agree i.e. from the Christian's point of view, so my question goes thus: IF after she divorces her first husband, does she have to wait to have sex before she remarries the new man?

In my own opinion, I see it from a logical point of view which I'll discuss. but lets see if there are any more responses..

baersworth..lmao@ it being a norm.!!!

My God!  I guess that makes sense the Bible says not to deny your husbands...desires and that anything goes in the bedroom between husband and wife....-I take it you're not Christian....

Born Catholic.  I din't get you...did you just disagree with me?

Anyways, if you do believe in sex after marriage FOR WOMEN (forgive me if I misunderstood), the last time someone read the Bible to me, the 'sex after marriage rule' applied to men too...so I take it you're a virgin? If a guy wants his bride to be a virgin then let's hope he's a virgin too.  If you're an unmarried non-virgin then I take it you're not Christian either.

You guys do what you want with your plugs, and let us girls do what we want with our sockets.  And at the end of the day, may God forgive our trespasses and deliver us from evil.

IF after she divorces her first husband, does she have to wait to have sex before she remarries the new man?

That's hilarious...so she believes in sex after marriage and she also believes in divorce? I thought the Bible condemns divorce?

I never heard this from a woman before....LOL!
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Minghei you are definitely not a married man. After honeymoon it is always the husband who denies sex with his wife.

My thoughts...
Spiritually....
You should not have sex before marriage.  When you have multiple sex partners it allows for comparisons.  Men will break up with women and women will break up with men, because of their skill or lack of.
If you have never had sex before you don't know what you are missing and you will be able to explore everything together.

Reality...
People are deciding to marry later and hence pre-marital sex happens.  Or it could be vice versa, pre-marital sex and people don't see the need to get married anymore.  Anyway...
In some churches in America, they have mandatory pre-marital counseling.  Some preachers will refuse to marry non compatible couples.  They main questions asked are financial, spiritual and sexual compatibility.  Sexual compatibility is seen as an important factor in marriage, in addition to finances.

In conclusion: We all know sex before marraige is wrong, but people continue to do it.  The person you are speaking about has to be comfortable with whatever decision she makes and be able to live with the consequences.

sex before marriage is wrong according to what we were taught by our parents and churches....but the reality is that most people have sex before they are  18yrs old, so the only way is.. to have sex and gain experience boy or girl but not to over do it..meaning three to four relationships are in order....most people i know would hate to marry a virgin.. i included, not all but most virgins appear to be timid in matters touching on intimacy and no one would not like to be a teacher...girls can in most cases get away with being a virgin ...but a boy..man don't even start!...which woman will wait for you as you learn from being a one minute man to a certified bed room bully....the girl i had first my first experience with,... if i were to see her today i would run and hide..i did poorly and would hate to reminice with her over my bad perfomance or get in a shouting bout with her..coz she would chew and spit me out...now think a wife who knows you were a virgin and you start hurling insults at each other and somewhere in between she shouts....you.. shut up you think you are all that and i am the one who taught you how to..****..........man?.. shit thats foul!...practice makes perfect and also, which boy/girl would buy a car without a test drive?..even if you are a virgn right now..chances are that at some point in this life of ours some stranger will hit it when you are already married..so lets just be realistic...have all the sex you can right now and grow up quick b4 you commit to your other half.....with all the...what if's......but this applies to boy/girl who shares the same thoughts as me...

@ Kamally, lol thanks for sharing with us. I agree with you, and it's kinda nice hearing the 'doesn't matter if she's not a virgin' thingy coming from a guy...

girls can in most cases get away with being a virgin ...but a boy..man don't even start!...which woman will wait for you as you learn from being a one minute man to a certified bed room bully....

True...and in a lot of cases, after you break up with a girl you've slept with she'll be telling her friends how bad you are in bed & there goes your image, lol.

True...and in a lot of cases, after you break up with a girl you've slept with she'll be telling her friends how bad you are in bed & there goes your image, lol.

LOL! You guys are too funny.
This is for all the men, you never want a woman to tell her friends that you were bad in bed.  That's the absolute worse.
This is for all the woman, my grandma told me this one, never tell your girlfriends how good your man is. 

I totally got off the topic.  Anyway, I think we all agree no sex before marriage is ideal, but it rarely happens.

Addressing the original question:  To answer AfroP. you must first work with clear definitions.  What is marriage and what is divorce?

If a couple has mentally divorced but hasn't signed the papers...are they divorced?  Likewise, if a couple divorces on paper but still "shakes the sheets" are they really divorced?

If a couple lives together and are in love and does "the grown up" but do not have papers..are they married?  Likewise, if a couple is married on paper but not in love and not "going to the library" are they really married? 

It depends on the woman's beliefs whether or not she should wait to have sex after a divorce.

..........a person who has never had sex gets into the marriage situation coz first,,he/she is eager to experience that feeling..but those  who have already had sex many times just want a wife/husband..who they are compatible with. > they also happen to have the bigger picture and know that sex is only a small part of the whole deal....ever chased a girl for a long time but after you have had sex..  is when you find out how you really feel?..or find out what she really feels about the whole  relationship thing?....what if this happens when you have already signed  a piece of paper in the name of marriage...sex is a big thing but also.. very small when you look at a bigger picture...i would be happy if we all waited but on the other hand am happy most chose to do it b4.