marriage

..how true is the saying that you should never marry someone you love? ....in my personal experience i find that wen i was in a relationship with a    woman i deeply loved we fought over everything but now i have a different  kind of a relationship whereby the gal loves me more than i do her so in short i trust everything she says never showing any sign of doubts thus having a deep kind of trust btwn us...the kind of a woman i drop at clubs with her gal friends to hangout and head off to sleep n then go pick after they through clubbing...thing is she cant drop me at clubs but i do drop her all the time and the peace in this relationship  is heavenly...whats up..?

...fyi...they have the same kind of beauty but the caring feeling is different...in ex i worried what she was up to...in current i worry more about her safety...eg on the road etc.. more than wat she is up to...i never trusted any male friend of the ex...in current i have met n made great friends with almost all of her male friends from old to new...n wen i happen to see hotter women asses  i do feel guilty wen i look n get that wat if feeling so i have come to the conclusion that.....either am getting old or the above statement is gospel truth..bcoz am notplaying her ven though i can n am not worried she is playing though she easily can...

Marriage! Wow, that's a tough one!

Since we're on the subject... I, once again, need help.

I went to a jewellery store, identified an engagement ring,and made a down payment on it,...um gonna be done paying for the thing in a year or so. It's a nice one i think, bright diamond and all,...one that will make any woman giggle delightfully. However i dont have a fiance, nor do i have a girlfriend. Nonetheless i know i want to get married at some point in my life so um preparing for it, sorta like what you do with life insurance, a retirement fund or medical insurance.

i mentioned this plan to a few female friends of mine and the reaction i got was unanimous, and definately  nothing i expected. I was attacked, and accused of being a romance killer, apparently one should not have a 'strategy' for such things. And i was told, if my future fiance found out her ring was bought long before she came into the picture she wont accept it,....WTF???

Um stuck here. Help.

But...what about the ring size??!! I have been with my fiancee for almost 4 years but came close to not choosing the right size of the engagement ring...But to select one before knowing the girl...You might end up having to select a girl based on the size of the ring you would have bought...

 ....m.o.b ....m.o.b...it seems ring is important not seem it is...!

Since we're on the subject... I, once again, need help.

I went to a jewellery store, identified an engagement ring,and made a down payment on it,...um gonna be done paying for the thing in a year or so. It's a nice one i think, bright diamond and all,...one that will make any woman giggle delightfully. However i dont have a fiance, nor do i have a girlfriend. Nonetheless i know i want to get married at some point in my life so um preparing for it, sorta like what you do with life insurance, a retirement fund or medical insurance.

i mentioned this plan to a few female friends of mine and the reaction i got was unanimous, and definately  nothing i expected. I was attacked, and accused of being a romance killer, apparently one should not have a 'strategy' for such things. And i was told, if my future fiance found out her ring was bought long before she came into the picture she wont accept it,....WTF???

Um stuck here. Help.

Hahaha.... You are VERY emotion , Khabzela !! It's not you 

Getting a ring before you make up your mind to CHOOSE her, my god.... So... I think it's the fragile piece of the past !! I puzzled why did u half expected the tide had been out, leaving the top of the wreck visible? Hahhaha, I half think you couldnt explain it to yourself and didnt try . Big trouble. And dont u forget it, my man    ...

So did you miss me ?

LOL, you guys crack me up!

....m.o.b ....m.o.b...it seems ring is important not seem it is...!

It's important because it is used to make other girls jealous. So the more expensive/beautiful the ring, the more other girls would wish that you had picked them instead, and the better your girl feels about herself and about you.  It's a girl thing.

Khabz - Turn what you did into something romantic then - tell her that you did what you did (buying the ring too early because...and then send her this quote: "I knew I loved you before I met you (- Savage Garden)".  That should solve the problem.

But...what about the ring size??!! I have been with my fiancee for almost 4 years but came close to not choosing the right size of the engagement ring...But to select one before knowing the girl...You might end up having to select a girl based on the size of the ring you would have bought...

Man, images of the wife, her brown eyes >and< a strange woman with long hair, eddied about your mind what exactly you had dreamt . But you was thick with sleep and nothing made sense. We are sneaking round the portrait of the marriage. It was tragic. The word tragic seemed to regiter with someone, who I thought was asleep in an armchair. I never call a man FIANCE if I have not worn his engagement ring yet. 

how true is the saying that you should never marry someone you love? ....in my personal experience i find that wen i was in a relationship with a    woman i deeply loved we fought over everything but now i have a different  kind of a relationship whereby the gal loves me more than i do her so in short i trust everything she says never showing any sign of doubts thus having a deep kind of trust btwn us...the kind of a woman i drop at clubs with her gal friends to hangout and head off to sleep n then go pick after they through clubbing...thing is she cant drop me at clubs but i do drop her all the time and the peace in this relationship  is heavenly...whats up..?[/i]

I'm kinda new on this forum, but I can't help agreeing with you on this. I have been in a similar
situation before. You know the problem being in this soup? You find it very difficult making up your mind about the second girl, you sometimes feel a very strongly for her, but at times you just wanna dump her, but then your conscience comes kicks in, this cycle goes on and on until you become man enough to get your act right and do what you've always known to be best for you....that's keep her.

If you're hesitant about the person you're with then they're perhaps they're not the one for you.  If you really feel they're that wonderful and deserve everything in life, then you should give them to someone who will love them more than you ever will.

"...you can't make your heart feel something it won't" - Bonnie Raitt

Good Sabrina. but you know sometimes "giving them to someone" or to put it more bluntly ' dumping them', breaks their heart and makes them bitter to an extent that a monster is released that makes them a threat to any man, unfortunate to fall in love with them.
An angel is turned into a devil overnite- you should know what i mean.

Sometimes you just focus on the attributes that make you like them and try to play down every other "faults" in character or personality. Afterall how many people get a perfect match of what they consider the ideal partner.

Good Sabrina. but you know sometimes "giving them to someone" or to put it more bluntly ' dumping them', breaks their heart and makes them bitter to an extent that a monster is released that makes them a threat to any man, unfortunate to fall in love with them.
An angel is turned into a devil overnite- you should know what i mean.

Sometimes you just focus on the attributes that make you like them and try to play down every other "faults" in character or personality. Afterall how many people get a perfect match of what they consider the ideal partner.

I get what you mean Frkus.

The reason why I believe in 'letting go' is because I chose the easiest option in my first relationship (i.e. to try and make it work with someone I cared about but couldn't see myself with)...and the most dreaded thing happened almost 4 years later: I fell for someone else. I felt trapped.

After I ended it, I realized that I had spent all those years living a lie and it wasn't fair to put him through that.  I don't think anyone deserves to go through something like that and ending the relationship is being the bigger person.  He still hates me today and it wouldn't surprise me if he leaked out a few of our "home made" videos on the internet. Lesson learnt...women aren't the only crazy ones.

I know someone who married a girl he cared about, but wasn't "in love" with.  After 10 years he realized that his affection for his wife was more sister-like than anything else. They're both still married but they're 'seeing' other people.

This is all too complicated really.  I guess you have to go with what you think is right and then stick to it for the rest of your life.

I can't help but agree with you. Sometimes there decisions you must make for yourself.
As they say when you get to the river, you'll figure out a way to cross it.