Can a sista get some play.

Lol....For shanghai folks....Sincerely writing, i think most of our men are just never serious. I'm surprised that most of my male friends here, who i suppose are to be serious in their relationships, fall apart(Cheat) when a slightest opportunity comes. I'm happy i'm a different kinda person. For all ya'll...i think Honesty and sincerity is the best policy.

.........promo ur a very positive dude n its cool ...ur last words on ur death bed will be honesty n sincerity i can bet .....always keep ur eyes open  n give negativity abit of room where relationships r concerned.....dude if ur not playing ur being played its simple and very clear...its like that....believe me am a fully trained assassin

I have read all the replies to the topic I posted, but it seems that naturally everyone has their own opinion on the subject. I personally feel that I should date, and if there are no strings attached, thats fine too if you state that in the begining. But you know after another 2-4 years from now I would like to settle down, and meet someone who is on the same page as me. Im tried of running into men who are not on my level. Many of the post stated that this is not the place to meet that longer term person. Well where do you meet them? On Mars!

Im from Chicago, and just like before i left, aint nothing there. One of the post said meeting people is a problem in metropolitian areas.
I would have to agree.

But  really what I think is that they don t make the good ones anymore. Everyone is just out here for themselves, there is no such thing as community. To be honest when the world was smaller we had more choices.
So like i said in the begining with my original post. Can a sista get some play? I guess not.

Many of the post stated that this is not the place to meet that longer term person. Well where do you meet them? On Mars!

Calm down, calm down...LOL.

Big cities are full of horny but career-minded people. Many people here wouldn't dream of starting a family here, mainly because they are in that 'transitional' phase in their lives.  So yeah, unless you want to be in a longterm relationship with a permanent resident I think it's best to just avoid a relationship altogether (while you're here that is).

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I've realized that the problem with women is their obsession with love and marriage.  They could be drowning in quicksand and they'd be thinking "hmm...will I ever find love? Will my prince charming come rescue me? Darnit, I broke a nail!"

Men on the other hand are more concerned with the situation at hand: "sh*t if I die like this the guys will be laughing at me on my grave...!"

Yes Sabrina you are right! But in no way do i plan or have the hopes of meeting anyone here and expect long term. But i guess i was not clear enough. A sister would not mind meeting some ATTRACTIVE looking men to hang with. I have seen a few NICE looking Chinese men, but nothing to write home about.
 I know beauty is in the eye of the creator, but I cant do ugly.

Im sorry.

nubian,

your response in the previous thread made me think of the poetry readings in the clubs.

hey we women are hopeless romantics.  but not all of us.  metropolitan areas are definitely hard to find good mates.

Yea girl back in Chicago I would go the poetry sets.
You usually meet up with some nice people and have meaningful conversations.
Out here I guess I'm not in the right places.

Do they even do poetry here anymore?



 

yeah they still do poetry readings.  definitely not like before. the movement has died down a bit and the heavy hitters have gone on to do more acting or writing. something which pays.  i really wish i was there right now to hang out with you guys.

maybe in a few months i will be.